You have talents and gifts, which in fact, become your challenges…
You are a visionary…
You have created a vision about how your parenting would look like long before you had your child. You started creating it the moment you knew you are going to become a parent. This is your vision, not your child’s.
You are super talented in problem solving…
You have tons of experience and you know well the answers to all possible issues and problems. You eagerly give advice to your child believing it is the only right one. But this is your solution, not your child’s.
You seek perfection…
Good is not enough, you aim higher and you want perfect for yourself and your child. Perfection is a fantasy. This is your perfection, not your child’s. You do not need to be perfect in order to be a brilliant parent.
You are future focused…
You spend a lot of your time in the future, your mind is a master of playing and imagining all possible scenarios. Those actions shield the child from their learning opportunities, from growing the resiliency and grit. You rarely slow down enough to notice the impact of those re-occurring actions that seem to re-surface, time after time.
You do not need help...
Well, you do not! You have made it here so far without any help! You have learnt how to parent from your parents, you use their methods and you continue to pass the wisdom from generation to generation. But the world has dramatically changed! Are those methods effective? Have you changed?
You are loving…
You rely on Love as a key aspect of raising a thriving child, you believe that love is the only thing needed to raise a child. Love is just one tool in the parenting emotional toolbox. More tools are to be unpacked.
You miss out on “seeing the truth”
Our children are our mirrors. How often do you look at this mirror and ask yourself: “What do I need to change about myself to better support my child? What do I need to do to be more emotionally literate and connect to my child when he needs me the most? What do I need to accept, let go of, validate and acknowledge about myself to be present and attuned to my child’s inner world?”. How we react and feel about our child’s behaviours are direct reflections of how we feel about ourselves. Do you see that?
ParentUp is here to focus on You
ParentUp will show you what the external validations really do to you and your parenting. I will help you to see and love yourself for WHO YOU ARE with all your imperfections. As a result you will see your child for WHO HE IS, an authentic human that needs unique parenting approach that is only YOURS and nobody else’s.
